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Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message   By Litesneeze on Saturday, September 22, 2001 - 07:47 pm: Edit

In my opinion, anyone can find love anywhere. By setting yourself in a pigeon hole, you are limiting yourself. I'm not saying that by making a statement that you are gay, lesbian or straight isn't possible, I'm just saying that people who identify with the bisexual life are less limiting and are open to love from any direction. It's not to say that they are indecisive or that others are stubborn or close-minded, it's just another honest way of life in my eyes. Bisexuality is just as plausible as homosexuality and heterosexuality.

Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message   By Unelouve57 on Monday, December 10, 2001 - 04:05 am: Edit

I prefer to have a man and a woman in my life at all times. Each fills a different need. Women are so much more understanding, and more willing to take care of each other's emotional needs!

Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message   By Princessamy on Thursday, December 20, 2001 - 07:18 pm: Edit

I'm interested in finding out if there is a bisexual community in Cleveland.

Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message   By Savahnnauh on Tuesday, September 24, 2002 - 12:32 am: Edit

I'd also like to know if there is a bisexual community here in Cleveland.

Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message   By Chrunemyr on Wednesday, October 09, 2002 - 01:04 pm: Edit

I don't like labels myself. I am bi, though I often say "gay" just because it's easier and you don't have to explain yourself.

I find a lot of discrimination in the LGBT community against bisexuals. I've heard some say bis are just closet cases who haven't fully accepted their homosexuality, or that it's just a phase. (If so, it's a phase I've been going through for over twenty years!)

If I'm in one of those moods, I'll tell people I'm trisexual. When they give me that blank stare and ask what that means, I shrug and say, "I just try and try..."

Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message   By Alexslady on Friday, October 18, 2002 - 02:43 am: Edit

well...what would you call me then? I have been in relationships with men (I was straight then), women (definetely lesbian), (which by then officially made me bi) and now, totally in love with a I straight again? Still a lesbian? Do I clutch the tired old handbag of bisexuality to describe this? I am learning so much now about the trans world...and am realizing that we as a gay community (and I do define myself as a heterosexual lesbian) struggle with terms that identify us in relation to ourself..until we need to see ourselves in relation to another. My Alex hasnt changed me. I have always been this ..what label would be true to me? counseling, my counselor (someone new to me and really not well picked for me) hardened up her face when I said I was dating a trans man...and then announced we needed to look at this issue of bisexuality because she doesnt buy into it. Its a cop out for confusion, according to her. Really? I never felt confused. Even now. I feel the world is confused trying to solidify me into a mold,,heck..Alex is more definable to them than I am at this point. But imagine someone less secure about themselves...being told by a counselor that bisexuality is a cop out. Well hell, I think heterosexuality is too. Its for the non creative, moderately stimulated. Not that I have anything against the het folks. Some of them are my friends. And two were my parents...

Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message   By Misio on Sunday, February 02, 2003 - 08:43 pm: Edit

this is off-topic but it is very important to me (i'm posting this in every forum).
can anyone tell me if there are any gay friendly churches or religious organizations in cleveland area (i have no religious preference). i'm looking to find a new church because my pastor recently preached about the evils of homosexual lifestyle.

Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message   By Tigereye on Sunday, March 09, 2003 - 06:48 am: Edit

"Ex-gays" are bisexual, plain and simple.

There is a lot of discussion and hoo-hah in the news about so-called "ex-gays." These are folks who claim to have come out as gay or lesbian at some point in the past, but now they say they found the "lifestyle" unfulfilling and have "changed" their sexual orientation to heterosexual.

Usually, this "change" involves a lot of conservative Christianity, and sometimes, for men, sports and power tools. (For women, the same fundamentalist Christianity, but with bread dough and sewing machines.)

The "lifestyle" they say they have left sounds like a gay (usually male) version of a frat party blended with Mardi Gras: a queer version of the drunken, druggy, hedonistic life led by more than a few heterosexuals in their 20s. In other words, the excess that anyone matures away from after a few years.

First, they never seem to get that this is not a **gay** life they are leaving, is is a drunken, druggy, clubby life of excess that anyone will leave eventually.

Second, and this is what drives me crazy: They haven't changed anything. They are BISEXUAL. This is the textbook definition of a person who can find a person of either gender attractive sexually. People who really can choose the sex they are attracted to, it may seem. Bisexual people are wonderful and natural, but they are not everyone, and in fact they are a minority. Just like the rest of us queers.

Now, the religious right "ex-gay" groups will never admit their "ex-gays" are bisexual. To them everyone is heterosexual -- because the Bible says so -- and queers are, literally, deviants by choice.

Queer groups know this religious-right line is incorrect. Here's what burns me: They go on about the political motivation of the "ex-gay" groups promoting their poster boys and girls. But they, too, never, ever say the word "bisexual."

Poor, confused, misguided John Paulk (the head of Focus on the Family's "ex-gay" group who came out at Ohio State, then went "ex" and was caught two years ago cruising in a D.C. gay bar) could have been saved his torment had someone told him that, yes, he can be both "gay" and "straight" at the same time. And that more often, the gay part and the straight part of him might be separated by time so that one appears now, the other one later and then back again, often triggered by an "outside stimulus" with a cute face and a shared interest. (Or a grand building with a pipe organ inside.)

The gay and lesbian political groups are afraid of this for the same reason most of us are: It is a challenge to our identity as queers. Or as straight folk. Because, like most people, we are not bisexual, and so we can't understand that attraction to both sexes.

So we try to pretend that, since it doesn't exist for us, it can't exist for anyone. We accuse the folks who experience it of lying. Much like the anti-gays do about gay and lesbian people -- because they can't conceive of same-sex attraction.

Our organized political groups should be of a higher character than this. But in their response to the whole "ex-gay" question, they have never even uttered the word "bisexual," although it is the most logical explanation. They go on and on about how the "ex-gays" are lying, about how they are politically -- or financially -- motivated.

But these arguments will never work, because they ar wrong. The "ex-gays" really are experiencing what they say they are. They just don't know the word for it.

And neither do our learned gay and lesbian organizations.


Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message   By Mcidado on Monday, March 31, 2003 - 05:13 pm: Edit

I am gay and at various times in my life have been in situations where others have tried to put me on the defensive about my sexuality. I can only empathize with bi people who get that crap from gays and straights alike.

Having said that, I've noticed that occasionally, a bi who is on the defensive, owing either to external or internal stuff, likes to hurl it on out to others (gays and straights) about being unimaginative, unevolved or whatever self-rationalizing, pejorative terms he or she can drum up. Get real. If you're bi, you're bi. You may well have some insight into your own sex life. However, that does not qualify you to pretend that you have a clue about mine.

I keep my "mouth" off of other people's sex lives, and I like it just fine when they shut up about mine.

Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message   By Bwaynef on Tuesday, June 10, 2003 - 06:45 pm: Edit

A freelance writer friend of mine needs GLBT parents to discuss teen pregnancy and their experiences with it with their child. Anyone here familiar with such a situation or know someone who would be willing to be interviewed (anonymously if necessary)? Write me at

Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message   By Heatherandres on Monday, November 24, 2003 - 01:17 pm: Edit

Man, I have stuck my neck out so many times as an activist!! But when it came time to bring my new boyfriend to a retirement party for my friend "jaquar Judy".. For the sake of not offending any of the affluent gays there, I was asked not to bring him...I was so outraged but what can you do!
I brought an affluent chemist lesbian who ended up acting all wacky and disruptive because it rurned out that she makes her cocaine in her home!! and is manic..heheh...and I didnt bring her to make a point!!!haha!
But the point here is that i have been so pro-active, donating my time to aids benefits, the womyns variety show,talk shows, and even coming out in 1992 for Ohios Night Out publication and I have been judged, screwed up, lied to, and discriminated against by more lesbian than men ever!!!Each personn for different reasons. My elist youthfyul idealist attitude and philosophy has been dented from many experiences.
People are people and everyone has the capacity to be attracted to the same or opposite sex..
I am curently a "Hasbian" --i am just Heathero! go for who treats me the best ans that is currently a sweet lovable musician who treats me better than any man or woman ever!I try not to be bitter-- i worked at gay pride doing chair massage this year-- but people have never failed to disappoint me! Be yourselves people! Hold each other up for GOD or Goddess SAKE!!!!

Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message   By Valentigress on Thursday, January 15, 2004 - 06:17 pm: Edit

Hello everyone I am bi and i am just a person who loves people, i don't let gender get in the way, restricting myself from who i may choose.

AND BI THE WAY... LOL There are bisexual meetings at the pride center in cleveland, there is a meeting friday night (January 16th). I'll be there, if you're interested come by it's 8-10pm.

Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message   By Dmdalemary on Monday, January 19, 2004 - 12:57 am: Edit

I am a bi male who encountered a discrimination incident today...I see no other place to put it, but I would like to let others know about it. This incident happened online with MSN Groups. What I am going to do is copy the message I posted at my Yahoo Group, GLBT Pride, Unity and Equality, for my members there. I think you will find this quite interesting if you are of the GLBT communities:

Group Members:
Now here is what I ran into today. I was over in MSN land looking at
groups over there and the thought hit me...why not create a MSN Group
similiar to this one to reach a broader base of folks...sort of a
mirror group, boom, off I go..write me up a great porn of course, key words, GLBT, gay, lesbian,
bisexual, transgender, transsexual, gothic, pagan, wiccan....nothing
sexual, mind you. Just a unity support type description for the
group, very similar to this one, just a little broader with the
gothic/pagan/wiccan description...well...MSN denied the
description..they would not specify which words that they would not
allow, just that a word or some words were not I was
instructed to rewrite the definition...well, I tried..I did not want
to delete the key words mentioned above, because that would have
pulled away from the reason for the creation of the group to begin
with...well, after three attempts to satisfy the unsatisfiable MSN, I
hit the cancel...and shot them an email charging discrimination and
vowed to boycott them and cancel everything I had to do with them..It
is so unreal in this day and age to run into something of that
nature...I mean I wasn't sexual, violent, deviant or gory or nothing
like that...

Thought I would share that with you..I plan on telling many others as
time goes by..

Thanks for listening...please feel free to respond...Dale

Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message   By Spykenij on Thursday, January 22, 2004 - 10:16 am: Edit

If you are a lonely 100% lesbian, my advise is to stay as far away from bisexual women as possible. I've had 3 relationships with bisexual women and let me tell you...if you think you're suicidal from being lonesome, wait til you get going with one of them. To each his own, but spare yourself from this kind of agony. It is so not worth it.

Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message   By Ned on Wednesday, July 07, 2004 - 06:10 pm: Edit

A friend told me that when he cruises the gay chat-lines, which seems his want fairly frequently, he often encounters Divirced straight men who claim they cannot risk another encounter with someone of the female sex !

It therefore seems the greatest recruiters to the world of being Gay . . . are the Family Courts !

Top of pagePrevious messageNext messageBottom of pageLink to this message   By Dreamer on Thursday, March 24, 2005 - 02:56 pm: Edit


What are people like there? I am a foreigner. I think that gay people are not treated as they should be in my country. It is a very complicated matter. This is so narrow-minded place. You can not do almost anything without being bothered by someone.

However I am so anxious to hear that are you able to notice that I am not from there. It would be so great to live free. Few years ago I didn't even think that sexuality would be so important element in my life. This is so crazy place, and it would be so great to live somewhere else.

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